Welcome to Pickles & Honey! My name is Amanda and I’m a twenty-something living just outside of Boston. Here’s my story…
I spent most of my twenties working a 9-5, climbing the corporate ladder, and trying to maximize my salary as a search engine optimization (SEO) manager. I taught myself SEO, built and managed a large team of people, more than doubled my department’s revenue…and then I got completely burnt out.
So I accepted a position with another company making more money, but traded my downtown, open-office environment to work in a cubicle in the ‘burbs. I tried to convince myself that I could make it work for the ‘right’ amount of money, but quickly realized that spending 8 hours in a cubicle wasn’t for me…no matter how much I was getting paid. Forcing myself to show up and put on a happy face really took its toll on me, and I felt like I was losing more and more of myself with each passing day.
My husband, Aaron, was also going through a similar quarter-life crisis, and together we decided that we needed a total change of scenery and moved 3,000+ miles to San Francisco. I started working from home, still for the same company, so I could maintain a steady income.
This is when things really went downhill. I had romanticized the city and how it would change my life. My apartment became a glorified cubicle, my dog (Honey) became my only co-worker, and I was still staring at a computer screen all day…only now I was 3,000+ miles from family and friends, in a city I ended up hating.
But as difficult as this experience was for me, it was exactly what I needed. I learned more about myself in that year than I had in the previous four. I felt a sense of instant clarity about what’s important to me and what I want my life to look like. And I traded a lot of my fears for motivation to create the life I want.
So I moved 3,000+ miles back to Boston. I quit my 9-5. And I’ve left safe, but stagnant to pursue what I love – writing, specifically about a feel-good, compassionate, health-promoting way of living, through food, career, puppies, and all of the other little and big things I’m learning along the way.
Over the years, what I’ve realized is that often, we let life turn into this assembly line, where we make passive choices based on what’s put in front of us. We don’t know exactly what we want to fill that space, and so we let our priorities get out of whack and invest all of our energy into unsatisfying work and things we feel like we should be doing. Because here’s where a lot of us get stuck:
How do we actually want to spend our time?
It can be an overwhelming, even paralyzing question when we’re not sure. And in these moments, what has worked for me has been to simplify: Try new things. Incorporate new experiences with the goal being simply to have more fun. In the end, it’s the combined power of these baby steps that will serve as the foundation for bigger leaps as we build momentum and begin making active choices.
Stay open to the possibilities…